How to Fill Massage Time during Couples Massage (Massage Monday #381)

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner so I’m going to share some tips on how to fill the Couples Massage time.

Let’s say you agree to give five minutes of massage. Typically, as soon as you start massaging, the time starts to slow down and your thumbs and fingers start burning and five minutes feels like forever.

Here are some tips on how to fill the massage time easier.

1) Slow Down
When you slow down whatever you are doing, it simply takes longer and fills the time quicker. Slowing down also makes it feel more sincere to your partner rather than rushing through. It also feels deeper because you have a longer skin contact. One good way to slow down is to match the breathing with your partner and press as you both exhale because the body relaxes when you exhale.

2) Break into smaller segments
You massage the muscles and not the bones. Muscles are usually between the bones. So pick an area like the shoulder between the base of the neck and shoulder bone. I would start with three points to focus on but you can divide it into five or even ten points to focus on and do whatever the technique you use on each point. It makes it less boring when you have more points to work on. It’s ok to overlap as long as it doesn’t hurt yourself or your partner.

3) Get more techniques under the belt
If you feel your thumbs and fingers are burning, you are probably using the typical thumb-circling or squeezing with the thumb and fingers. Unless you have thumbs of steel, it’s the fastest way to kill your thumbs. There are ways to save your thumbs if you use your thumbs and there are many other ways to massage without using your thumbs and fingers. Learn the proper techniques so you can give more effective massages easier whenever and wherever without hurting yourself.

So these are the ways to fill the agreed massage time. What’s even better is to under-promise and over-deliver. So promise to give five minutes of massage but give more than five minutes. Don’t promise to give five minutes of massage and give up after two-minutes because it can lead to a feeling of disappointment.

Knowing how to give a good massage is truly is a gift that keeps on giving. If you didn’t know, I have a free video ebook on how to massage your partner from head to toe. You can download it on my website at so you can start pampering your partner today.

Happy Massaging on Valentine’s Day!

Massage Monday #381 – How to Fill Massage Time